The Love Hate Relationship of Natural Hair

Natural Hairs Love and Hate

Don’t you love when someone with so much excitement comes to you and says ” I am going natural”. They are so innocent and so naive. They totally think it’s the best thing ever and that it will be such an easier task than that creamy crack!

Um DAUGHTER don’t be fooled! Natural hair takes effort beyond the efforts of your past hair relationship! After you get passed that cute little baby fro and the many nights of twist outs…trust me you will be annoyed and almost over it! And then all the remedies and hair tutorials and products that your favorite natural bloggers tell you to use only to find out that it doesn’t work on your hair! Chile please! Natural hair is work unless you are like one of my girlfriends that refuses to do her own hair and gets it done on a regular. I am so headed in that direction.

I have been doing this natural thang for over 10  years now, I am sure it’s been longer than that! And I have settled on using one main line of products, Shea Moisture. My hair responds well to these products, they work best for me.

Sometimes I wash it and leave the deep conditioning mask in my hair and I get these results! Simple and easy!

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And trust I have tried a bunch of different products and spent a bunch of money but Shea Moisture and raw Shea Butter love me! They never fail!

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Now, I tried Miss Jessie’s products but my hair soaked that stuff up so quick! I had to use to much product and for the hefty cost of $50…GUESS WHAT…..(I am cracking up at this picture)HATED IT 1

I do find it useful to try homemade products every once in a while, especially a deep conditioning treatment or a hair spritzer. I of course am not one to search the internet for every body and they mama’s hair recipes. I found one YouTube channel that I find very helpful and I am sticking with it, Naptural85! I use two of her DIY recipes and guess what I love em!

The aloe vera and water daily hair moisturizer. Maaaaaaaaaan this stuff will keep your hair lively all week long!

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And this deep conditioning mask, may seem like a bit much but my hair always feels amazing afterwards. I do this every other week. The recipe consists of eggs, mayo, honey and olive oil. Trust me you will love it! Click here for the video tutorial.

I know it’s frustrating trying to figure out what to put in your natural hair, what to do to it, how to style it but the bottom line is—-YOUR GOING TO HAVE TO TRY TO SOME PRODUCTS OUT. And when you find something that works stick to it! As your hair changes in length you will more than likely need something new. And trust as the seasons change your products will have to change with it!

As I mentioned before Naptural85 is my go to on natural hair, she has a video of her favorite products here, where she goes into details about how to care for your hair. THE BEST EVER! So check her out…get lost for a couple of hours watching her videos.

I had to post this picture, I feel like this after wearing my hair out for 5 days. After twisting it every night  by the 4th night I am over twisting so I just go to bed. And then when I wake up I look like Samual L. Jackson!

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What are some of the things you use on your hair? Do you love and hate your natural hair?

Next week I will be rocking a new hair color and fresh new hair do! I promise to share!

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Grow Up & KRUSH Debt

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There comes a time in everyone’s adult life when you really have to take a look at your finances and really just GROW UP! Time out for overspending! You have to grow up and take responsibility for the debt in your life, the mismanagement of your money. Become a better steward over what God has given you.

Eliminate the excuses and just GTHU (Grow the heck up)!

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I am in a new phase in my life and with that comes REORGANIZING EVERYTHING! This new series is called “Tuesday’s To Do’s!” By the end of the April I want to have a clear budget for the year, a clear plan on tackling me and my husbands debt, a few finance classes (free and 1 paid for) lined up, and a bigger vision for 7 major areas in my life.

Here are a few tools that will assist you and me in getting thangs’ in order!

The Ultimate Budget Binder printable template shared by Mique from Thirty Handmade Days.

And if you want a Family Binder she has an awesome one here.

If you have been reading my blog from the beginning I am sure you remember this budget template from Budgets Are Sexy which is one of my favorite financial bloggers.

Also, I read this article “God will take care of me” on Budgets Are Sexy by Jon & Kris from 2-Copper-Coins.com about how they live off of $44,000. Awesome, awesome, awesome sauce! If you don’t do anything else read this article. And def. read this as well Want to be Wealthy, it’s all about changing the game of your money!

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Our ultimate goal in getting our finances in order is to have financial freedom and to purchase our first home! Yes yall our first home! Which we plan to do May 2015! 

So in order to get my mind right in this here process, I am going  on a spending fast in April. I just want to renew my mind and cleanse myself of old habits of overspending, eating out and shopping. And during my time of fasting I will allow God to show me what it truly means to be a good steward over my finances.

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I know I always say this but making little steps always equal a greater change in the end.

I hope after reading this you too will make some needed financial changes and jump start your life into being more financially organized!

So every Thursday tune into “Thursday’s To Do’s!”, where I share my big budget/financial life goals and changes.

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Why Aren’t You Married: Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others?

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I am literally 5 minutes from asking myself this same question! Seriously, I am fresh on the marriage boat! But the interesting thing is this article I am about to share is exactly what I started to do in my single over 30 adult life and the results of it are: I am married now! I am married to the guy of my dreams in all seriousness…I mean he didn’t have the dreads I thought my husband would have when I was 16…lol.
What’s funny is that I did 97% of what the article said marrying women do and 100% of what they said single women should STOP doing! 
I will point this out the article says that women should give a man 6 months to commit, I was strong on 4 months, by then you should know if you want me around! I just wasn’t giving a dude half of my year!
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Another side bar point is that overweight women  have a harder time marrying or dating. Do you think this is true? Remember this every wife is a trophy wife regardless of shape or size. Every man is different, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, however if your overweight get healthy for you not for any other reason.
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*DISCLAIMER–I DID NOT READ THE BOOK BUT I DO BELIEVE IN 97% OF WHAT’S HIGHLIGHTED BELOW.
*I didn’t write any of what is posted below, I cut and pasted from an article I read, Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others by John Molly.
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Major Points before you dig in:

The Six Basic Guidelines For Women To Get Married

  1. Insist on it.
  2. If you find yourself in a dead-end relationship, move on.
  3. Love yourself first.
  4. Commit yourself to the idea of getting married
  5. Keep in shape, watch your weight, and take care of your appearance
  6. Time is running out—use time wisely in your search for the marrying man

To maximize your chances of marrying, only date the marrying kind:

  • Most men will not consider marriage before they reach the age of commitment
    • For 80% of high school graduates, 23
    • For 80% of college graduates, 26
    • For college men, the high-commitment period is 28-33
    • For men who go to graduate school, 30-36
    • After the age of 37-38, the chances that he’ll commit drops dramatically. After 43, it drops even more
    • A 40+ man who has been married before is more likely to remarry than an equivalent bachelor is to marry
  • Most men will not contemplate marriage until they have been working and living as independent adults for several years (hence the high-commitment periods)
  • Men become likely to marry after they become uncomfortable with the singles scene
    • E.g. They realize that they’ve become the sleazy old guys who hang out at the bars and hit on younger girls
  • Men do have a biological clock, based on their desire to be an active father (especially to their sons)
  • Misc. negative traits and warning signs
    • Men who see marriage as a financial arrangement in which women have the most to gain
    • Men whose parents divorced when they were young
    • Men who live with their parents
  •  Other key facts
    • Men often marry women whose religion, politics, values, and socioeconomic status match theirs
    • Men whose friends and siblings are married are more likely to marry
      • 60% of the newly married men reported that they had a friend who had married within the last year.
      • Those men who didn’t have any married male friends were 2-3 times as likely to say that they weren’t ready to marry.
      • The majority of men who had seen their friends get married said that if they met the right woman, they’d think seriously about getting married.
  • Avoid stringers, men who string along women but never commit. To filter them out, insist that he commit after six months. Then stick to it, no matter what excuses he gives.
  • Consider unpolished jewels, men who are just as nice, intelligent, hard-working, and successful, but lack looks, height, or social skills.
    • a. 88% of men over 50 who were marrying for the first time were marrying divorced women. The women told the researchers that they had already tried the tall, suave, type, and he didn’t make a very good husband.

First impressions are important

  • 1. Men are attracted by the physical, but marry character
    • a. Newly engaged men said that what attracted them to their fiancées was how classy, positive, energetic, enthusiastic, and upbeat their future wives were.
      • i. While 68% gave a physical description of their fiancée, only 20% said that what attracted them was how gorgeous and sexy their fiancée was. Over 60% described their personalities, even if the women in question were very beautiful.
    • b. Therefore, be positive!
  • 2. All wives are trophy wives—men marry women whom they admire and like to show off (but not for their physical appearance)
  • 3. Dressing appropriately sends the message, “I am wife material.” Men marry women they perceive as “situational virgins” who move easily in their world.
    • a. Editor’s note: In other words, don’t dress like a ho. Men see a sexy outfit as an invitation to have sex.
    • b. Most men decide within 10 minutes of meeting a woman if she’s appropriate for marriage, or just for a casual affair.
    • c. Over 80% of men said or bragged that their fiancée was the kind of woman they were proud to introduce to friends and family
    • d. Over 70% of men said that they knew that their future bride was a “nice girl” the minute they met
    • e. Only 7 out of 2,000 men interviewed said that their fiancée was dressed in a very sexy outfit when they met.
  • 4. If you want to marry a man who is more attractive than you, go for a very good-looking man because he will actually place less emphasis on looks. Women see their own looks as a gift of nature equal to or superior to brains and talent. In contrast, 67% of very good-looking men think of their looks as a minor asset, and say they would rather be smart, rich, or talented. Do the following:
    • a. Approach him. Very attractive men don’t make passes at women because they don’t have to.
    • b. Let him put you on a pedestal. Don’t treat him any differently than you would another man, just because he’s good-looking.
    • c. Let him see your talents and accomplishments. Very good-looking men often marry women who have qualities they lack—education, professional accomplishment, social standing, and ambition.
    • d. Make demands on him. Advise him to go back to school or get a better job.
  • 5. Making a good impression on his family is almost as important as making a good impression on him.
    • a. 5% said that it was their family that had convinced them that the woman was something special
    • b. 30% said that their family’s positive opinion had influenced them

What kind of women get married?

  • 1. Women with a large number of female friends are more likely to marry than women with a large number of male friends
    • a. Men don’t go out of their way to introduce their female friends to other men
  • 2. If you reach 30 and want to get married, you have to make finding a husband a primary goal. Once your friends start getting married, they are less likely to have an active social life with you. Don’t be the last one off the bus!
  • 3. Women who get married, even those with high-powered careers, make getting married a priority that they work at.
  • 4. The larger the number of single men and women you work with, the better your chances of marrying
  • a. If you work in an industry with few eligible men (e.g. the fashion industry, where most male colleagues are gay), or have other disadvantages, you’ll have to work harder outside of work to overcome them. It’s unfair, but suck it up.
  • 5. Women with unrealistic expectations often remain single
    • a. Much of the time, these expectations are imposed by others, who think that the men she brings home aren’t “good enough for her.”
    • b. Give men a second chance—20% of brides to be said that they didn’t like their husband when they first met him.
  • 6. Self-confident men are attracted to accomplished, self-assured, and talented women
  • 7. Women who waste their time with stringers or men who don’t care for them hurt their chances of marrying
    • a. Women who marry refer to the men who broke up with them as losers. Women who don’t marry often make men who don’t reciprocate their feelings the center of their universe and still speak well of them.
  • b. Don’t date married or gay men.
  • 8. Women who live with their parents are less likely to marry
  • 9. Being slender attracts more men, therefore increasing your chances to marry
  • 10. Women who put effort into looking their best are more likely to marry than those who don’t
  • 11. However, men find women who are active and don’t spend all of their time primping more attractive
  • 12. Women who make an effort to seek out the company of single men are more likely to marry
    • a. Women who marry date more frequently than those who don’t, even it’s Mr. Wrong.
    • b. Women who marry are three times as likely to participate in masculine activities in which they had no real interest.
    • c. Women who marry are twice as likely to have made lifestyle sacrifices (changing jobs or moving) to meet eligible men.
  • 13. Women who have active social lives are more likely to marry
  • a. Go out on Friday and Saturday, when other single people go out

The stages in a relationship

  • 1: Living up to expectations
    • Men believe that they can size up a woman in 5 minutes. They’re usually wrong. If a man doesn’t call, it’s because he realizes that he made a mistake.
  • 2: Getting to know you. The following types of women are more like to get asked out on additional dates
    • a. Women who date more extensively
    • b. Women who have male friends or brothers (and thus have a better understanding of men)
    • c. Women who worry less about impressing their dates and more about having fun
    • d. Women who don’t have sex on the first date
    • e. Women who object when they don’t approve of the man’s plans
    • f. Women who are friendly and positive
    • g. Women who are a good audience and show interest and/or a concern for his welfare
    • Sidebar: Why men don’t call
      • As men see it, they don’t need a reason not to call. They do need a reason to call.
      • The woman gets too serious too soon
      • The woman is not as positive as they had thought.
        • 90% of men find catty remarks a turnoff
  • 3: Needs and lifestyles
    • This stage is about separating attraction from compatibility.
    • If your lifestyles aren’t compatible, end the relationship as quickly and painlessly as possible
  • 4: Steady dating (range: 3 weeks to 3 months)
    • Men don’t typically think of themselves as dating until after 4-6 dates
    • Women typically think of themselves as dating after 2-3 dates, hence the problem
    • The primary reason men drop women during the first month or two is that the women come on too strong, too soon.
      • 50% of men have broken up with a woman because she got serious prematurely
      • Never speak of marriage, children, or your future together for the first 6 dates.
  • 5: Romancing the woman
    • Men are always trying to please the women they like. Just relax and enjoy your stay on the pedestal (because it’s likely to be brief).
  • 6: Getting comfortable (3 months+). This is the stage where the couple stop feeling they have to be on their best behavior and start being themselves.
    • The fact that your man doesn’t bring you roses, but instead plops on your couch to watch TV and takes you for granted is actually a natural stage and the hallmark of almost all serious relationships—not a deal-killer.
    • But, don’t be a doormat. If you don’t complain, or, even worse, try to do everything for him, it will make him think you are just there for his convenience.
      • Women who withhold doing household chores usually get more respect from men
      • The women who insist on being treated well are 2x as likely to end up marrying their man. No one marries a servant.
    • Insist on being monogamous
  • 7: Committed couplehood (range: 6 months to 1 year; 73% said that within 9 months, their partner had become the center of their lives).
    • Successful couples:
      • Are monogamous
      • Put their partners interests above their friends and family
        • If his family member makes a negative comment about you, he should defend you. 79% of marrying men said that they came to their financees’ defense.
      • Hang out together without any particular plans. When just being together, you are a successful couple.
  • 8: Premarital couplehood.
    • Committed couples are:
      • Openly affectionate, and make sacrifices for each other
      • Become confidants. More than 90% of couples who get married are.
    • But remember that men are sensitive to criticisms of their family, and men don’t share their feelings easily
  • 9: The proposal stage
    • Most men propose after going out with a woman for 18 months.
    • If at the end of 22 months, a man has not proposed, the chances that he will start to diminish.
    • For 3.5 years, the chances diminish gradually. After that, it plunges. After 7 years, your chances are virtually zero.

Speaking of Marriage

  • 1. Men who discuss marriage are more likely to propose
  • 2. If you want to discuss marriage, you’re going to have to bring the subject up, because many men never will
  • 3. 73% of marrying women said that they put pressure on their man to propose
  • 4. If a woman is convinced that marriage is essential to her happiness, she is more likely to marry.
    • a. If a man is convinced that being married is essential to a woman’s happiness, he is more likely to propose
  • 5. When a man who has been dating a woman for months says he hasn’t thought of marriage, he’s probably just being honest. Men don’t think about these things.
    • a. 1/3 of husbands who had said no at first had forgotten that they did so
    • b. 2/3 remembered, but most thought it wasn’t a big deal.
    • c. When told that saying this upset their wives, the men generally responded, “What did she want me to do, lie to her?”
    • d. More than 90% of men who said they weren’t ready didn’t think the answer was a rejection, just a fact.
    • e. The best response is, “Maybe it’s time for you to think about it.”
    • f. Statistically, this is actually one of the most encouraging answers a woman can receive; many of these men proposed within 4 months.
  • 6. Men don’t get subtle hints—a woman has to discuss marriage directly and, to make sure he gets the point, ask follow-up questions.
  • 7. When a man says he isn’t ready, it usually doesn’t mean he will never marry.
    • Often, it’s because they don’t have enough money.
  • 8. Men rarely respond positively when challenged.
    • a. Over 50% of men say that when presented with a choice, “Marry me or get lost,” they chose to get lost.
    • b. Over 50% of men say that when a woman walks out, they let her go.
    • c. Instead, come back to the subject later. Send the message, “I love you, but I need marriage.” Don’t let them off the hook.
      • i. “How could you do this to me? You hurt me.”
      • ii. “The reason I’m so hurt is that I love you.”

Marrying after 40

  • 1. The best places to meet eligible men are clubs and groups based on common interests. Join organization that have single men as members.
    • a. 21% of engaged women over 40 said that they had met their fiancée at an athletic club
    • b. Sports clubs that focus on activities that attract singles (trips, bicycling) are best
    • c. Next best are tennis, and golf.
    • d. Third come professional or social organizations that are overwhelmingly male, like engineering associations or collectors of sports memorabilia.
    • e. Fourth come organizations that have a singles scene, or sponsor events that give singles a chance to socialize with other club members.
    • f. Dances, picnics, and charity golf or tennis tournaments are also a good place to meet men.
  • 2. Have an active social life
    • a. Women who go out twice a week, even just to dine with other women or do volunteer work, are 3x as likely to marry than those who don’t go out.
    • b. Going out three times a week boosts your chances even further.
    • c. However, going out more than 5 nights a week decreases your chances.
  • 3. Though men often date women who are much younger, they usually marry someone close to their own age.
  • 4. The most common reason men over 40 were attracted to their fiancées was that they took good care of themselves. So stay in shape!
  • 5. When asked what attracted them to their fiancées, younger men cite virtue, talent, or accomplishments. 62% of men over forty cited “niceness” (congeniality, agreeableness, a relaxed, low-maintenance attitude, and acts of kindness).
  • 6. Older men may be in a hurry to get married; delay them, don’t dump them, if you aren’t ready yet.
  • 7. Men who attend religious services are more likely to marry.

Divorced men, widowers, and single fathers

  • 1. Young widowers without children are the most marriageable men on earth
  • 2. Single fathers with young children have little or no energy for a social life
  • 3. Most widowers are not ready for a relationship until 2 years after their wife passed away
  • 4. Men whose wives died of lingering or painful illnesses are less likely to remarry.
  • 5. The more amicable a man’s divorce, the more likely he is to remarry
  • 6. The younger a man is, the more likely he is to remarry

What do you think of this article? Do you find it helpful?

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Are you on the move?

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Are you on fire right now? The new year is looking good! It’s so promising! You are on the move! Does that sound about right? Well guess what? 95% of people that set goals in the New Year never FOLLOW THROUGH! MOST of the time, something happens in the atmosphere around us and the rocket we launch comes crashing down full speed!

In order to bring to fruition your goals and dreams, you have to create a strategy to FULFILLING them that stretches beyond 2014. I know it seems overwhelming but we have over 300 days in a year so we have plenty of time. There is no rush! Take your time and figure it out!

For starters, create a vision board or an inspirational board. It can be all about you and what you want.

  • Turn Your Vision Board Into an Action Board–  I agree 100% with this. Most of the time, we write a list of goals or create a bucket list but never put any faith or action behind it. This article is a great start to putting together a REAL action plan! After you create it, you have to post it, so you can see it alllllllllllllll the time!

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  • Take an online class for free at Coursera: I am enrolled in Developing Innovative Ideas for New Companies: The First Step in Entrepreneurship, a 6 week program. It has been very helpful so far.

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  • Wealthy Women Rock– We all set financial goals,so if you want to attend a conference all about it, check LaShawne Holland out!

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  • How to Make 2014 The Best Year of your Life– Great article with practical information that will give you a major boost!
  • Shaun King with 100 Life Goals University gives some great insight on building goals over here. I am one of his LGU students, my life has been changed already since becoming apart of LGU!

Challenge yourself, every month to do something to enrich your life. What do you have on your agenda?

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DREAMS, RESOLUTIONS AND GOALS

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I AM A DREAMER, BELIEVER, ACHIEVER! What are you or what do you aspire to be? This year I want to create a Tuesdays For Thoughts Series under my Life Lessons category. Because just as much as I am into fashion and beauty I am about this LIFE! So here we go!

Dreams are meant to be lived not forgotten! Remember a journey of 1,000 miles begins with one step. If you do nothing you get nothing! Point blank period!

Every year we feel like we are given a clean slate, a brand new perspective. Fire works all over the place but what happens when the fire fizzles out and the flame isn’t blazing as bright as it was? What do we do then?

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While most of us fade out into the shadows and say “Oh well it is what it is” and never give thought to why we faded out to begin with it. It’s simple…you DIDN’T HAVE A PLAN!

You had a DREAM or VISION or RESOLUTIONS or GOALS without writing it out and keeping it in plain sight. And putting some ACTION to your plan!

So while the fire of the new year is blazing, take a moment and write down everything you want out of 2014. Make sure your well rounded in what you want out of this year. Don’t just focus on one thing, try focusing on the core of who you are. And from there write one simple line of action that will push you to accomplish it.

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Whatever you decide make sure to create something that doesn’t just look good on paper but is actually functionally realistic. Having dreams for 2014 is a great thing but if it remains only a thought it will spark and fade out in the river of Dead New Years Resolutions..yes there is a such place if only in my head!

Today I leave you with a simple task of writing your 2014 down on paper. And if your married, ask your husband what he wants out of 2014 and if there are kids, ask them the same question!

BIG THANGS POPPIN…so get to it!

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300+ Days of Living Your Dreams!

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It’s another year yall! 2014! Happy New You Year! The new year sparks something inside of all of us. It’s like a big reset button, a major do over! However, change can take place at any time in our lives. But since it’s a new year let’s start NOW! We have over 300 days to make a difference in our own lives and those around us.

Get started, make 2014 count for something! See you tomorrow!

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The Words of Many

Dreams vs. Fear

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Someone stopped me in my tracks the other day. A comment that was made, moved me to think far beyond the moment those words pierced my heart. I generally am not bothered by the words of many but when I am walking along my path in the exact direction I want to go in and someone glares their eye of disapproval it startles me. Has this ever happened to you?

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I have been on both sides of this story. I have been the one walking down a path all smiles, happy content and then boom, someone drops something in my path to piss me off or discourage me. And then I have been that person to rain on someone else parade. I was the one that took someones happiness and crumbled it to pieces right in their face. I guess their is no safe way to walk the paths we desire without someone unknowingly spreading the stinkiest pile of dog poop on it!

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I see now why Philippians 4:11 says to ” Be content in all things”.  I am assuming this also means the pile of poop with that unbearable smell! I guess no matter who’s eyes are glaring down my path conjuring up an opinion, I just have to be content in my own personal path because ultimately I have to remember this “who the heck cares what others think” and instead of putting up one finger that is the most popular among so many, I put up all my fingers because more fingers up means my hands are in total surrender to the one that matters the most in every inch of who I am and He is the one keeping my path blazing!

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I am writing this truly for my own benefit but I hope it’s just as encouraging to you than it is to me. Funny thing is, this morning I had two people come to me in tears about their life. One was depressed and the other was sad about a death of someone she had just meet. I guess I have the face of kindness and the smile that God uses to mend broken hearts. I say this because checking the broken pieces of yourself regularly is for your benefit but it’s also for the benefits of those around you.  However, don’t deplete yourself so much so that your cup is empty and you have nothing to replenish yourself.

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So when someone drops a bag of poop on your path don’t glare at it to long to where the smell rots away at the keen senses that you have developed along the way of this thing we call life. Hop over it just as quickly as you spotted it. And if you get a little on your shoe, wipe it off as soon as you can. Sometimes we step in it unknowingly and the smell creeps up on us.

Create your own miracles

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If you smell a little stank, that means your carrying something that your not intended to carry. Hurry up and get it off of you and keep blazing your path.

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Unapologetically You

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                                           MUA: Karen Nolen, MODEL: Jalisa                                                                   MAKEUP: Lipgloss:Lime Crime & Eyeshadow: Kat Von Dee                    PHOTOGRAPHER: Amen with His Lyric, Her Heart Photography

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There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself, comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty. – Steve Maraboli

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Stake Your Claim with Ambition, Faith & Courage

Ambition, Faith and Courage

“Don’t you dare, for one more second, surround yourself with people who are not aware of the greatness that you are. Jo Blackwell-Preston

This life requires you to STAKE YOUR CLAIM to whatever it is that you require or need to get you from point A to point B or C or D. But some think this is easier said than done, well my dear friend it is as easy as it seems! Let me tell you why I believe this.

You have to start the journey and step out there on faith. I always tell myself that whatever it is that God wants me to do I will fall into it regardless of what I am currently doing because I AM DOING something! We all have aspirations, dreams, goals and missions but many sit back and keep dreaming those dreams, keep writing those goals and set out on missions that never come to fruition. WHY? Because of lack of ambition, lack of faith and lack of courage!

Ambition

AMBITION: a strong desire to do or to achieve something, typically requiring determination and hard work.

Am I as ambition as I would like to be, by all means no. But guess what the more I stepped out there, the more I fueled my ambition. And the stronger it became. Failure became less of an option because I knew better!

Faith

FAITH: Faith assures us of things we expect and convinces us of the existence of things we cannot see.

I honestly started a new journey 3  years ago based completely off of faith. In my heart I knew that starting a blog would develop into something bigger for me. I knew that this was the jump start I needed. I had no idea that this would lead to an internship with Dewdrop and an opportunity to be a Beauty Adviser with Heels and the City. But I knew that this would develop and fuel the greater on the inside of me. I knew this would develop my ultimate dreams.

COURAGE

COURAGE: mental or moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty

Stepping out there on anything you do takes courage. I used to have a habit of needing someone else with me when I started something new. I guess I felt like I wasn’t good enough or my voice wasn’t strong enough to carry a blog on my own. That’s real talk right there. After awhile I noticed that my vision was getting away from me, because I was trying to include someone else in on things. But after that I knew that I had to do it on my own and that I didn’t need anyone else, I just needed COURAGE!

So yes I changed the name of my blog 3 or 4 times. I switched direction, I started blogging consistently and then stopped and started again. I know I made a lot of changes, I switched things around and all over the place at times but guess what here I am almost 3 years later and I am still doing it!

I have learned a lot about myself but most of all my view is clear. I can look to the future and really see where I am headed.

With AMBITION, FAITH and COURAGE nothing can stop us, unless we ourselves allow it!

 P.S. The make-up was done by yours truly. I also styled and created the art direction for the photo shoot!Main Signature